Some food for thought...I have heard a particular statement thrown around a lot about military spouses. Sometimes I even hear military spouses saying it about themselves. It is the words well I knew what I was getting into when I married a Marine or others will say you knew what you were getting into when you married a Marine. What the heck does that mean? Do we really choose who we love and would you walk away from someone that was perfect for you because their occupation didn't fit into your fairy tale ending? No matter how aware you are of what your future with your husband could be like, nothing prepares you like actually going through a deployment. Then the second one will be different than the first and the fifth will be nothing like the third deployment. There isn't any way to prepare yourself for this sort of thing. Sure, the deployment will test your marriage, but it could also bring out the best in your marriage. My Marine treats me good when we are together, but I can't deny that the most sensitive sweetest side of him comes out when he is away from home. We have to get creative with our communication and show one another we love them in different ways. He can't exactly give me that kiss on my head that lets me know that everything is going to be okay, but he can send me a thoughtful email with all the words I need to hear or a pic of him doing the I love you sign.
Back to the saying about knowing what you were getting into. That statement makes it seem like military spouses don't have the right to be upset that their heart and soul is deployed. People need to know the struggles that happen everyday for military families. If you are sad, because your husband is deployed tell people! More than likely people will thank you for what you are going through and tell you that they could never do what you are doing. Sometimes you need to hear that and don't be afraid to dig for some gratitude. You deserve it.
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